Still on Linda Ikeji’s matter... I was flummoxed when some Nigerians in this present day and era were telling Linda Ikeji to ge...
Still on Linda Ikeji’s matter...
I was flummoxed when some
Nigerians in this present day and era were telling Linda Ikeji to get married
after she told us that she got a N450 million mansion in Banana Island, Ikoyi.
You see, Nigeria is backward because
some people are still clinging on the values that are no longer operational in
the world right now (I'm tempted to write about Auguste Comte's "Law of Three Stages"). I cringe when I hear a graduate say, “In the time of our
forefathers, women were obedient”. I want to ask the person if his ancestors
had mobile phones, cars, etc. But then, I wouldn’t blame the person. If they
could bath with salt water during the Ebola scare, I don't expect anything
smart.
When did someone’s marital status
become their concern? Who made them marriage prefect? Why should Linda get
married if she doesn’t feel the time is right for her? Why would a man see
Linda as a threat? A man that sees a woman as a threat should go and cut off
his balls. Gbam!
Why should she aspire for the
Mrs. Status? The Mrs. Status is like a badge of honour of some sorts. If you don’t have it, you’re seen as a failed woman; the society will frown at you. You must aspire for it. You must acquire it. It’s like a currency system, in a way. You need it to get some things in the society. The thing is that this currency system is regulated by a patriarchal society; a patriarchal society that devise new social mechanisms to subjugate the women folk.
Some things have dawned on me...
Read the rest here: https://shadesofcisi.wordpress.com/2015/09/23/the-mrs-status-2/#more-187
If she were a man, would people badger her this much to get
married? Different people have different priorities. So, what if she doesn’t even
want to get married? What if her life is perfect? Why do people think every
woman out there wants to get married? Lets get it straight: not every woman
aspires for marriage and motherhood. The earlier we understand this, the
better.
All these marriage prefects
should face their lives and mind their businesses. Period. They should stop
trying to make someone else miserable because they, too, aren’t happy with
their lives.
