True love is not defined by the too many gifts or sweet words he showers on you, neither is love determined by the countless numbe...
True love is not defined by the too many gifts or sweet words he showers on you, neither is love determined by the countless number of sex she has offered you. Carrying his baby isn't the definition of love either.
These days, many women see love as a "poverty alleviation program" where the man is expected to cater for all her needs, that of her immediate family, extended family and even friends. While most men in return see love as a "give-and-take-expedition" where the woman is obligated to satisfy his sexual needs anyday and anytime, regardless of how she feels at that point in time.
True love is determined by your level of commitment, honesty, your respect towards each other, communication, understanding, sacrifice, companionship and by how you feel about yourself when you are with him/her. If you feel good about yourself when you are with that person, then that is true love, as every other thing falls into place without stress.
True love would always want to listen to his/her partner before yourself. True love is sacrificial. True love would never be "too busy" for his/her partner, as true love would always want to be with him or her/her always. True love never lies, cheats, breaks his/her word, or disrespect his/her partner as doing so would go against how you feel about yourself, for true love knows that by disrespecting your partner, you are actually disrespecting yourself, even when it does, true love is quick to accept its wrongdoings.
True love wouldn't treat his/her partner like he/she doesn’t matter, because you see your reflection in him/her.
It is disheartening that too many people walk into relationships thinking they are going to change their partner to suit themselves overnight or instantaneously, which is perhaps why many of them get frustrated and abandon the relationship almost immediately, when their partner refuses to transform to their taste.
True love adapts and accepts people the way they are. True love accepts a person's transformation as it comes, no matter how slow the pace may be.
The sad truth is; no matter what we do, there are certain traits in every individual that are never going to change or could take immense time to change. No matter how good you are for that person, no matter the kind of technique you implore, until you understand what the makeup of your partner is, what drives him/her, what motivates him/her, how he/she loves, and how his/her mechanism are wired, that is when you would be able to easily transform that person to your desired taste. And never forget that transformation is a collective process.
It is also very important for you to understand your partner's mindset and frame of mind as that would help you in understanding the reasons behind his/her actions.
True love begins with you.....
Written By: Divinelove Udorji
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